Talking about sex with your children

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Learning to talk about sexuality in family

Most parents agree on the importance of an affective-sexual education quality from home and get involved in it. However, it is common throughout the process we arise fears, doubts and concerns about what to say, what not, how, when the time is right, what to do in certain situations or embarrassing questions. Given these scenarios, we may feel disoriented and not knowing how to act.

For this reason we have created this section to answer all those questions and provide guidelines on how to address the affective-sexual education of children.

When we talk about sexuality What are we talking about?

Now let’s talk about sex education I would start reflecting on the idea we have about sexuality. What do you mean by sexuality? What will things come to mind? What makes you think?

Think of a time when all the sex you have had throughout your life. What the you have had? Probably the answer is to have fun, feel pleasure, communicate with your partner, express our love … and during a time of our life to have a child / a.

You may ask, what does this have to do with the affective-sexual education of my son / daughter?

Traditionally it has been associated with reproductive sexuality. This idea has influenced that sex education should focus primarily on preventing pregnancy and protection of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

This model of affective-sexual education has put aside all communicative, relational and erotic part. When, in fact, are the fundamental reasons why we decided to have sex or not.

If we take as a reference to the World Health Organization (WHO) defines sexuality as “A central aspect of being human throughout life and that includes sex, gender, identity, roles, sexual orientation, eroticism , pleasure, intimacy and reproduction. sexuality is experienced i is expressed through thoughts, fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviors, practices, roles and relationships.

Why do we have to do affective-sexual education from home?

Sexuality is a very important part of the person who is present throughout life. So if we want our children to grow up in all its facets, it is imperative that we educate in sexuality. Sex education is a pillar over the education of our children.

The aim of the affective-sexual education our children to know, accept and express their erotic so happy.

A happy with their sexuality is someone who enjoys what he does and feels good about herself because it is consistent with their values and way of thinking. It sounds good, right?

And why do we have to do from home? Because when we become parents concerning our children. And, although sometimes we are not aware, we educate about sexuality continuously.

We educate what we say, but also what we are silent, with the models we offer, with the tone we use, which allow them to do, with what we hide with our modesty and our caresses, with our opinions .. .

Be aware that it is impossible not to educate sexuality. And as parents, it is important that we take our role in the affective-sexual education of our children. Since it is not an issue that can be built on the fly and without direction, but must be prepared / a.

What we need to consider to make a good affective-sexual education?

To make a quality affective-sexual education is necessary to work three basic pillars.

The first pillar is the work that encompasses the attitudes and psychological skills. That is, everything that refers to our son. Their self-esteem, the concept of himself / a, if you have self-confidence …

This pillar will help our children to make better decisions in all areas of your life and therefore in sex too.

The second pillar refers to the attitudes and social skills. That is, everything we do to relate to others. Listening, learn to thank, say what bothers us, what we like …

If our children develop and improve their social skills so will their relationships and therefore the couple.

The third pillar, and by no means the least, is the information and sexual knowledge. These have to be appropriate and adapted to the age of our children.

In short, we must keep in mind that sexual information without training is not sex education. That information without the skills to manage it does not work. That to educate must incorporate learning and development of attitudes and skills that will enable our children to make better decisions.

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